Judging a Book by its Cover

By it’s Cover

Now how does a cup of coffee and the string theory align my day?

Recently enjoying one of the true wonders of the world – a coffee. Oh, I like good coffee not just any coffee. I like coffee shops. I like the smell and taste of good coffee, and I wont tolerate bad coffee I would rather go without.
I like the social and business aspect of coffee. I like sitting with friends, colleagues and new acquaintances and enjoying a cordial or in-depth conversation on just about anything, or simply a wholesome laugh… as long as it is over coffee.
Coffee can be pretty amazing for your brain, your skin and your body…. this being the case obviously I only commit to coffee for the health benefits
According to a study done in 2005, “nothing else comes close” to providing as many antioxidants as coffee. While fruits and vegetables also have tons of antioxidants, the human body seems to absorb the most from coffee.
ScienceDaily reported that drinking coffee might help people with Parkinson’s disease control their movement. Just as interesting research published in 2006 that included 125,000 people over 22 years showed that those who drink at least one cup of coffee a day were 20 percent less to develop liver cirrhosis.
Studies have also shown that coffee can help prevent people from developing non-alcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD).
Coffee can improve energy levels and makes you smarter, coffee can make you feel happier, it is my friend and it understands me.

But I digress? While sitting quietly and sipping on my cup of `health`, I noticed an elderly gentleman coming down the street towards me, interestingly and entertainingly old mate was having a conversation with himself. No one was within earshot but this didn’t seem to matter to him and I presumed nor did his other self.

Watching with a smile, I relished the moment, his single-minded presence and enjoyment in this one-sided conversation.
There’s a well-told adage that you only get one chance to make a first impression. From business meetings to personal relationships, we’re educated that people form opinions of us in a few moments, and that we should be well versed in our preparation and ready to display our best at all times.

The very next morning it turns out he was staying in the same hotel as I was, sitting by himself; yet this time he was performing what seemed to eastern pray or breathing exercises at the breakfast table, again I delighted in his unabashed yet strangely different behaviour.

In short, although I felt his business was exactly that `his business`, I still judged and reached shameless conclusions to this mans mindset.

In today’s society, we put a great deal of energy into facilitating people to form good `first impressions`, from fashioning perfect opening statements in interviews to exposing the significance of a firm effective handshake.
We are told time and time again `if you blow the first impression, you’ll never regain footing or win back that space`

Despite my inexcusable condemnatory assumptions, on the third day I introduced myself to this kindly gent – it turns out, he was warm and gentle, an incredibly intelligent man, with a wonderful mix of worldly knowledge and informed opinion, a perfect gentleman worth every moment of my time, if not more.

Although we only talked in total for 30 to 40 minutes I could have listened to him for a lifetime, his readings, learning’s, theories and attitude surpassed all but few people I have ever met in my 53 years.
Siting here writing I am ashamed and embarrassed that I judged and snickered at such a phenomena of a human being, one in who I was a dwarfed by intellectually, metaphorically, and spiritually in every sense of the word… and yet he kindly went out of his way to not let me feel any lesser of a person; he is best summarized as a mix of Saint, Professor and the mad scientist `Doc` from Back to the Future, with a lovely touch of grandfather patience and virtue.
He spoke on M squared equals Y… where X is said to be logarithm of Y base M and yet conversely added, “I follow my spirit without hesitation. That is why I am filled with joy – I suggest you do the same”
He was widely read and soundly informed on the string theory, and Quantum Physics, well versed and educated on Rudolph Steiner and the like, the energy of the universe, along with its connection to the spiritual world, in a nutshell he spoke famously and entertainingly on `the universe and its relationship with people` – simply amazing to listen to and yet grounding to understand and realize.

Are first impressions worth the instance, feelings and consideration we put into cultivating them? Or are they noisy, distracting and outrageously restrictive, and something we should teach people to avoid or ignore?
What does the online research and conversations say about this?
When it comes to `judging a book by its cover` strangely enough, there’s also quite a bit of online discussion around thwarting our tendency to make snap or quick judgments… this I now whole heartedly agree with, more so due to my chance meeting with my new friend.

This kindly gent and I spoke on the books he had read and of those I should read, he asked of my world and of those in it.
In this conversation I mentioned that I was an author, he asked for a copy of `Fight Fire with Fire`, of which I reluctantly handed over – discerningly thinking it was never going to rival let alone match his current readings or entertain this great mind… again he made me feel at ease “ I will be honored to read your story, your thoughts are unique and worthwhile, it is wonderful that you are sharing with us all by writing them” then went on to say “ we all have a story worth hearing, thank you for sharing yours with me”… we then parted ways, and he was gone from my life.

From this I truly understand the point `don’t judge a book by its cover` and `first impressions are not always right`

Here I sit pondering my unique and wonderful chance meeting with an extraordinary person provided by life, by the energy of the universe.

Definition: Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover – One should not form an opinion on someone or something based purely on what is seen on the surface, because after taking a deeper look, the person or thing may be very different than what was expected.

When we look for a book to read, the first thing that grabs our attention is the cover of the book, its pictures, words, colours and layout.
Centered solely on the cover, we may decide whether a book is or is not for us. The upshot is, we may overlook a book simply because the cover appeals to us or not. Nevertheless, if we had have opened up the book and look at what’s inside instead we may have found it to be the one that answers all of our questions, it could have solved all of our problems and made us a better person.

This `first expression` also applies to people. People are often judged solely based upon their outward appearance, their hairstyle, choice of clothing or in my case that they may hold conversations with what appears to be, themselves.
Conversely, if one were to get to know the person and see what’s on the inside, open their pages, so to speak, then we may be astonished to find that the person is very different to how we imagined or had judged.
Hence, this expression is commonly used as a warning that a person should not judge people or things simply by what they see on the outside.

“Sir wherever you are, whoever you maybe, I unequivocally apologise, I have learnt through my ignorance and your presence” “you have provided an AWAKENING moment of which makes me a better person… for that I thank you, you are truly one of THE TEACHERS”

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  • Chaas
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    Very true! Makes a change to see somneoe spell it out like that. 🙂

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